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Category Archives: Ask the Surrogacy Experts…

Questions from the Sensible Surrogacy community, answered by our team of consultants…

PLEASE NOTE: Information in this website is based on personal experience gained over many years of assisting infertile couples. Comments are intended as a Guide for those in need, but should not replace professional medical or legal advise. Any medical questions should ALWAYS be referred to a credentialed medical specialist before beginning any treatment.

How do you start the surrogacy process?

Just like a surrogate mother, every Intended Parent needs to qualify before starting a surrogacy journey. Whether in Kiev or California, a reputable clinic will ask you to prove that you are Healthy, Fertile & Safe. Here’s what that means…

Where in the world can Gay couples afford surrogacy?

Surrogacy for gay couples

Surrogacy options suck for gay couples. There are only 2 or 3 destinations where surrogacy is explicitly supported for gay couples, which often leads couples to shady programs in developing countries like Kenya, or pretending to be straight to arrange a legally murky journey in Ukraine or Cyprus.

Should we do PGS testing on Day 3 embryos?

Surrogacy Baby

I have a clinic India that still likes to freeze embryos at Day 3. The rationale is that the embryos will develop better in their natural ‘in utero’ environment. I prefer Day 5 embryos, but I defer to the doctors on these types of issues– but there are exceptions, and PGS/PGD analysis is one of those exceptions.

Where is an affordable IVF option if I don’t need a surrogate?

If you don’t need a surrogate at all, then there are a multitude of affordable options for IVF. The better American IVF clinics are ranked on the CDC website. If you are looking for an even lower price, I would recommend an IVF program overseas. But you won’t be able to bring your embryos into the US without jumping some complex hurdles.

What should I include in my Independent surrogacy agreement?

Surrogacy parents

Setting the terms of your surrogacy agreement is a two-way conversation. You are not in a position to make demands; but it is absolutely your right to make requests. Do it NOW rather than later. Here are some things you may consider…

Will hiring two surrogates leave us stranded overseas for months?

Surrogacy in Ukraine

Babies born from two surrogates can be weeks (or even months) apart. When I had my journey, our two surrogates were scheduled to deliver in June and August. We left for Mumbai expecting that my husband and I would take turns staying in Mumbai for 3 months. But we learned there are ways that you can have two babies and not suffer too much.

What’s a “reasonable” success rate at an overseas clinic?

USA surrogacy baby

It’s hard to trust reported success rates at overseas clinics that have little, if any, oversight. My experience is that clinics in the developing world (e.g., Kenya, Cambodia, Georgia, etc.) have a pregnancy rate per embryo transfer of about 40% to 60% in general. That may seem like a very poor result, but it’s sometimes just enough…

What insurance do we need for our surrogacy journey?

surrogacy family

If you have a surrogacy program in a country without national health service (like the United States.) then medical complications can be devastating. The U.S. health care system is painfully difficult to navigate, and the insurance market is confounding to most international parents. Here’s how to protect yourself.

What are my total surrogacy costs if we don’t get pregnant?

…Reputable surrogate programs charge payments only as milestones are reached… So if you perform an IVF cycle but no embryos result, you don’t pay for any embryo transfer or pregnancy. Likewise, if you have the embryo transfer but no pregnancy, then you don’t pay for any of the prenatal care or compensation to the surrogate. If the pregnancy ends prematurely (God forbid!) then you only pay the surrogate’s compensation for the period where she was pregnant.

Understanding the “Gestational Age” of your pregnancy

what is Gestational Age

If you’re planning your travel to pick up your baby, you may be tempted to buy your airline tickets to arrive on the Estimated Due Date (EDD). That’s a bad idea because the date shown in the report is not the actual number of weeks of the pregnancy. The EDD is based on the “Gestational Age” of the fetus, not the “Chronological Age”.