Category Archives: Ask the Surrogacy Experts…

Questions from the Sensible Surrogacy community, answered by our team of consultants…

PLEASE NOTE: Information in this website is based on personal experience gained over many years of assisting infertile couples. Comments are intended as a Guide for those in need, but should not replace professional medical or legal advise. Any medical questions should ALWAYS be referred to a credentialed medical specialist before beginning any treatment.

Does Trump’s policy discriminate against LGBT surrogacy families?

Gay Surrogacy under Attack?

I am absolutely no supporter of Donald Trump — far from it! But in this case, the existing policy is being sensationalized and made to seem like an insurmountable barrier, when LGBT couples have been successfully navigating this policy for years.

Should I have my baby circumcised?

To circumcise or not

On some future day my son is going to come to me and ask why I elected to desensitize his penis — and try as I might, I can’t really think of a good enough answer. “Sorry son, I just thought that it would be easier than teaching you how to wash yourself thoroughly.”

Help me find an egg donor that looks like our family!

Surrogacy Baby in Ukraine

So many couples struggle with infertility. I work with couples every day who are ready to mortgage their entire lives to have ANY child at all. I’ll never understand how someone can prefer NO child rather than a child that doesn’t look “quite like the person they had in mind”.

How can I find a good Surrogate Mother for my Indy Program?

Indy Surrogate mother

Intended Parents pursuing an Indy Surrogacy journey can only be matched with a surrogate who is willing to be an Indy surrogate. All women have their own reasons for preferring Indy, but my experience is they generally fall into one of the following groups…

Colombia vs Ukraine… which is the better surrogacy destination?

Surrogacy in Ukraine vs Colombia

Surrogacy in Colombia is a new opportunity, and Bogotá meets all of the criteria as a global surrogacy destination — the medical care is excellent, the legal framework is supportive, and the cost of living is low (e.g., it’s affordable). But the same can be said for Kiev… so which is better?

Can I still pursue surrogacy if I have fragmented sperm?

Compared to women, the man’s role in making babies is pretty simple and straightforward, so the possibility that the man is responsible for failed pregnancies or unsuccessful IVF cycles is often overlooked. But male infertility is common, and high sperm fragmentation is a big reason.

Is Surrogacy in Ukraine safe in the political climate?

Yes, Kiev is safe and daily life has been totally unaffected by the tensions with Russia. One of our returning parents told us “Kiev is perfectly safe and the media has blown things out of proportion… any fear comes from the mainstream media bull**it.”

What’s the best health insurance for my surrogate mother?

UDPATED: I strongly urge all couples to get health insurance for their surrogate. In most cases it’s a legal requirement. In many other cases it’s a personal requirement of the surrogate herself. She will definitely need to know you will take generous care of all the prenatal requirements, and she won’t get stuck with any of the medical bills.

Can sperm sorting improve our chances of having a baby girl?

Every client secretly hopes for a boy or a girl — even if they pretend otherwise. There are various techniques to select the gender of your baby. PGS is now the standard technique in the United States. But an old technique called sperm microsorting (which was banned by the FDA) is having a renaissance.

How old is “too old” for a surrogate mother?

It’s inspiring that women of all ages can be so generous. If you doubt, just search on Google for news reports of women delivering their own grandchildren… it’s truly amazing.