Would-be parents always ask me about the risk that the surrogate may change her mind and want to keep their baby. Nobody questions if the parents may change THEIR mind and decide they don’t want the baby. Frankly, the possibility should be banned by law — we expect such protections for the parents, so why not for the surrogate?
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The most important step in an embryo transfer is the deft preparation of the surrogate’s uterus. To get the uterus endometrium just right for a pregnancy (not too thin, not to thick) requires a mix of science and artistry. This is one point where your doctor’s experience can really pay off!
UDPATED: I strongly urge all couples to get health insurance for their surrogate. In most cases it’s a legal requirement. In many other cases it’s a personal requirement of the surrogate herself. She will definitely need to know you will take generous care of all the prenatal requirements, and she won’t get stuck with any of the medical bills.
UPDATED: You are correct that there is no federal legislation supporting or banning surrogacy in Mexico, but there are “unregulated” programs. An unregulated surrogacy program is just a private agreement between the Intended Parents and the surrogate. If there is any dispute, the contract has no legal weight and can’t be enforced…
Permanent residency abroad does not bypass the ban on surrogacy under Islamic law. Living abroad will allow the baby return home without a visa, but that’s only one hurdle. Parents still need citizenship and a passport, and that’s unlikely to be approved by the embassy of an Islamic country.
There are excellent IVF clinics in many countries overseas – and many are much more affordable than a typical US clinic. So it’s tempting to perform your IVF overseas and then bring your embryos to the US for the surrogacy part of the journey. But wait! It’s not that easy.
First, to be clear: I don’t recommend traditional surrogacy — it comes with a host of legal and ethical issues. It’s hard to argue in any court how your surrogate could be denied full parental rights if she were dispute the surrogacy agreement.
If you have a properly executed Surrogacy Contract in a country with a supportive legal framework then the simple answer is NO, the surrogate cannot keep your baby. Unfortunately too many couples decide to skip the legal safeguards and open themselves up to all sorts of risks – including that the surrogate may have a legal claim to parental rights.
I don’t agree that every couple should have PGS before transferring embryos, but this often depends on the clinic and the lab performing the PGS. For some couples PGS is absolutely necessary, especially couples that have a history of failed pregnancies or miscarriages.